Arthur Schopenhauer has this theory about human intimacy. He said humans are like porcupines. He continues, during the cold winter, the porcupines were drawn together. When they get close they prick each other and get separated. But the winter again droves them close. And again, they prick each other. After several trials, the porcupines understood that it’s safe for each other to maintain a safe distance and keep warm.
The same thing goes for us, too.
We human beings have this need of being closely followed by this need of separation.